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The
New Battleground of Child Custody
Reform: Shared Parenting
By Rachel Alexander
7/19/2011
Child
custody and support laws have
become more onerous over the last 50 years due to fewer parents staying
together
and women becoming equally as capable as men at earning a living
outside the
home. Instead of reflecting these changes, the laws have lagged behind,
continuing to favor mothers over fathers. The laws generally award
primary
custody to the parent who spent more time at home with the children and
less
time working, even if the difference was miniscule. The other parent is
then
ordered to pay a crushing amount of child support, sometimes on top of
alimony.
In a small percentage of situations, usually where the father was the
primary
caregiver, this situation is reversed and the laws punish the mother.
Fathers
have reacted over the years in
different ways. Some fathers’ rights activists in Britain dress up as
super
heroes and scale public buildings to draw attention to the inequity.
The
founder of Fathers 4 Justice, Matt O’Connor, started a hunger strike
for equal
parenting earlier this month outside the home of British Prime Minister
David
Cameron. Some fathers tragically commit suicide. Last month, a
distraught
father immolated himself on the steps of a courthouse in New Hampshire,
after
mailing a 15-page “last statement” to the local newspaper detailing his
final
frustrations with the child custody legal system. The most high-profile
victim
of the child custody system, actor Alec Baldwin, helped bring exposure
to the
unfairness by writing a book about his experience.
Although
a few small changes have been
made to the laws within the last few years, due to exposure and the
efforts of
advocacy organizations, there has not been significant progress.
According to
the U.S. Census Bureau, 84 percent of custodial parents are mothers, a
figure
that has not changed since 1983. This is unfortunate, because Canadian
economist Paul Miller analyzed data on families and found that
“parental gender
is not a…predictor at all of any of the child outcomes examined, that
is
behavioral, educational or health outcomes.” The children often end up
with
“Parental Alienation Syndrome,” developing a dislike for the
noncustodial parent
bought on by the custodial parent. Long term studies of children in the
U.S.
and New Zealand have found there is a direct correlation between a
father’s
absence and teen pregnancy.
The
latest effort to change the system
calls for “shared parenting.” Although advocacy groups differ on how
shared
parenting would be implemented, it generally consists of making the
default
custody arrangement 50/50 joint physical and legal custody when parents
split
up, absent egregious circumstances. This would replace the current
system which
leaves it up to a judge’s whim to decide what constitutes “the best
interests
of the child.” Shared parenting bills are being introduced in state
legislatures around the country, and several states now have some
version of
shared parenting. In those states, studies are finding that divorce
rates are
lower and the children are better adjusted.
In
addition to passing shared
parenting laws, there must be tougher requirements for issuing
restraining
orders and reform of child support laws. 50/50 shared custody should
not
include child support unless there are egregious circumstances. Child
support
creates an incentive to continue fighting. Neither parent wants to get
stuck
paying it, and some parents greedily want it as a source of income to
use as
they please, since there is little monitoring of how it is spent.
Eliminate
child support in all but the most egregious situations, and most of the
fighting clogging our family courts will cease.
The
“deadbeat dad” roundups by law
enforcement of fathers who are behind in child support needs to stop.
Many of
them are fathers who were not lucky enough to be awarded custody, and
are now
working two jobs just to try and keep up with expenses and child
support.
Figures from the Federal Office of Child Support Enforcement solution
lies in
renewing the importance of marriage. He proposes eliminating no-fault
divorce
laws and requiring couples where only one spouse wants a divorce to
work out
the divorce agreement themselves. This would disincentivize divorce,
since
couples could no longer simply run to court to end the marriage, but
would be
forced to work with each other to come up with a custody situation they
both
agree to. Currently, marriage is about the only kind of contract where
one
party can unilaterally end the contract. The Center for Marriage Policy
recommends shared parenting that would place a child primarily with one
parent
for the first half of their childhood, then with the second parent for
their
later years.
The
small changes that have been made
in recent years are encouraging. Thanks to organizations like Fathers
and
Families, last year Massachusetts, which has some of the most punishing
child
support laws in the country, reduced the interest on overdue child
support by
50%. Legislation has been passed in several states around the country
within
the past year protecting disabled and military parents from child
custody
abuses. As families continue to modernize, and more women also suffer
the
effects of outdated child custody laws, the laws will be finally forced
to keep
up. It may just not be in our lifetime. This is a new kind of civil
rights
struggle, and one day our great-grandchildren will look back and
remember their
forefathers who fought so hard for their right to have meaningful time
with
both parents.
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