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The Daily Signal
My 25th Wedding
Anniversary Is This Week. Here’s the Secret to a Happy Marriage.
Michelle Malkin
July 26, 2018
To commemorate my 25th wedding anniversary this week to my husband,
Jesse, I asked readers on Facebook to share their own secrets to a long
happy marriage.
In short, the crowdsourced recipe for marital endurance includes faith,
forgiveness, romance, kindness, selflessness, and a healthy dose of
humor. A union built to last begins with a promise and persists through
compromise and commitment. It is about keeping your word, choosing the
right words, and knowing when no words are necessary.
Teri L. emphasized: “Marriage is WORK. You have to put effort into it.
You have to love and nurture the relationship. It has to be priority.
You have to respect it.”
Cathy G. advised: “Be careful with your words. Once they are out in the
universe, there is no taking them back. And laugh—a lot! 41 years and
counting.”
Vincent O. opined: The “key to a long marriage is forgiveness and
understanding. You must also end your arguments and misunderstandings
the same day. Never let it linger.”
Tony G. kept it short and simple: “53 years ago, I learned how to say,
‘Yes, Love.'”
Marie G. also administered pithy wisdom: “30 years. It’s all about
RESPECT.”
Hugh W. counseled: “Our secret to a long marriage: I always let my wife
think she’s in charge!”
Terence C. gave the opposite instruction: “As far as a secret to a
successful marriage, I always tell everyone: ‘My wife lets me think I
am the boss!'”
Walt S. weighed in: “50 years here … keep God and common sense in your
marriage. Simplicity, Trust, and Utility inside of our wedding bands.”
Pamela N. shared: “We celebrated our 51st last March. My advice is to
apologize when you’re wrong and forgive when you are wronged. Don’t
throw in the towel when hardships come. Hang on. There will be hills
and valleys … and beautiful meadows. Embrace it all together.”
Robert S. reflected: “Will be married 50 years this August 2018. I
carry a picture of my wife that I have had for over 51 [years].” She
“sent it to me when I was in Vietnam. I look at that picture every day
to remind me why I married her. It hasn’t failed me yet.”
Barbara M. posted: “Never take each other for granted and make
memories, even if it’s just dancing to a tune on the radio in the
kitchen. Laugh as much as possible and trust God to bring you through
the storms. Be grateful for all that you have and most of all always be
KIND and FORGIVING!”
Stark G. suggested: “Commit to the relationship voyage” and “always
remember that this is a LONG-TERM voyage.” Moreover, “never forget that
you are not an Adonis or a diva. Your partner didn’t have to marry you.
They did you a favor.” And “go out for a coffee or a drink once a week
to remind each other that you are still a couple.”
Rod K. divulged: “Having my wife of almost 44 years lying in a bed with
terminal cancer and other pressing issues, the adage of ‘live each day
with one another as though it may be your last’ has a tremendous
message we are now facing, but equally for any married couple.”
Joan H. similarly noted: “My 25th was spent with my husband in a
nursing home dining room where the staff had prepared a beautiful meal
in a private room. I think my advice for a long lasting marriage is
believing and living the part of your vows that say ‘in sickness and in
health,’ because you just are never prepared or know what the future
holds.”
From my mom and dad, who marked their 48th wedding anniversary this
spring:
Today, as you reflect on the 25 years of journey through your married
life, you can rejoice, be grateful, and take pride in all that you have
accomplished and weathered together. Marriage indeed is hard work, but
it becomes lighter when lived in love and perseverance, with patience
and humility.
Finally, Neil S. joked: “Never be stupid at the same time.”
We’ll take it all to heart. Stay tuned for another longevity update in
25 years.
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