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What Have We
Accepted?
By Mona Lease
Hi, all!! So - for the disturbing phone calls I mentioned last week -
and the added conversations I had in public places: 1)A guy told me his
Father died and there was no funeral. He lowered his head and changed
the subject. 2)A young man told me I am living in the '70's. It is now
acceptable for an attached girl (married or not) to have male friends
and do things with them while the boyfriend (or husband) is at work. It
is not - however - acceptable for the girl to stay out until late at
night or not come home at all. 3)Another phone caller said his fiancée
had gotten beaten by some undisclosed male who was supposed to be her
friend. The male friend had a girl he was supposed to have "dumped."
I'll stop the examples here - the rest I have are the same.
I have perused Craigslist for the last five years. You would not
believe what is advertised in the "personals" - complete with pictures!
Craigslist is around the world" via the computer, cell phones, and some
television applications. Disturbing does not begin to describe how I
feel about all of this. After I thought for awhile - a sharper image
came into my mind - and some nausea with it. I've always known that men
in prison (and probably some women, too.) get as many women as they can
to write to them, send them money, visit them, etc. It helps to bribe
the guards, cooks, etc - and get drugs into the prison along with
whatever else. I've seen pictures of inmates (set up by someone on the
outside) on Craigslist. It lists all of their likes/dislikes, kind of
girl they seek, everything but why they are in prison.
Regarding the case of the boyfriend and his girlfriend staying out all
night with another guy: How can the new guy do that? Does he not have a
job? Or is the girl's boyfriend footing the bill for this, too? I say
the new guy has no job. It is apparent he has no morals. Does the new
boyfriend see a meal ticket with this girl - you know - since he was
supposed to have gotten rid of the other girl? I say the guy sees a
meal ticket - which brought more nausea.
Regarding the girl that was beaten: The guy she was with had a "former
girlfriend." Did she have a problem with being dumped? Or was she
dumped at all and the guy thought he might have two meal tickets? I say
the new girlfriend said or did something that said she was not
"sharing" the guy and she got popped. See - me living in the "70's and
this being the 2,000's made no difference. Someone did not want their
"lover" with anyone else.
Since there was no funeral - the guy got no closure - no "his turn" -
if you will - his turn to hear what others thought of his Dad or how
his Dad had impacted their lives. And this led me to - more and more
people are not having a funeral - they are passe - like families going
to a restaurant for the holiday meals. This means that fewer and fewer
kiddies know what it is like to go to Grandma's house with the mixture
of home-cooked food, spicy pumpkin pie, and coffee aromas filling the
air. And that brought me to: Is this what is at the bottom of all of
the drug/family/marriage/money problems?
My generation - baby-boomers, I'm told - were taken to funerals and
were taught how to pay our "last respects." We were told that some day
it would be our turn to bury a loved one, prepare family holiday meals,
spoil the grandkiddies, etc. But, I do not see much of that. I see
people with no real idea of how to set goals, how to keep the goal in
mind, how to plan little steps to get to the goal, etc. Most of the
people with whom I speak do not know where they want to be in five
years - mentally or physically. Most of them just believe that "the
system" will take care of them. They do not even believe "the system"
could ever possibly fail or that the people at the bottom who support
it would ever sit down and say they are done.
And I want to take this opportunity to tell Commissioner Mike Rhoades
that I am sorry. I thought he had went "soft in the head" when he told
Pitsburg, Ohio's City Counsel that the Darke County Commissioner's had
no dog in their fight. I thought I would apply that logic to my life to
see what would happen. It is amazing what I can get done now that I am
not taking my "dog" to fights that truly are not mine.
Remember the kiddies and our service people. Take good care of the
furry and feathered ones out there. Be safe and healthy. See ya next
time. Ever Toodles!! MONA
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