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Mind, Body, Soul
Forward Moving
By Mona Lease
Greetings, Gals!! This column is dedicated to Captain Jack
Sparrow...who said: "The problem is not the problem. The problem is
your attitude about the problem. Do you see what I mean?"
Forbes Mistakes Are A Part of Life
12 Healthy, Productive Ways to Deal With Personal or Professional Regret
12)Forgive Yourself: It is the letting go of the hope for a better
past. Forgive the earlier version of yourself who made choices or
decisions based on what you had at the time.
11)Grieve Your Loss: Regret often involves a loss of what could have
been. It's ambiguous grief...yet still grief. To move past regret, you
must grieve the loss to truly let it go.
10)Take the "Serenity Prayer" to Heart: "God grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can ,
and wisdom to know the difference." To deal with regret in any area is
to accept what cannot be undone, forgive others and yourself, focus on
what can be made better. Dr. Keita Joy Ductant
9)Change the Meaning of Your Failure: We attach meaning to our
experiences. It's up to you to change the meaning of your failure. You
can have it mean anything you want. Only focus on a new positive
meaning. - Tyron Guiliani
8)Use a Growth Mindset: When you know better, you do better. Your
knowledge and approach is constantly growing by taking in new
information, seeing different perspectives, making mistakes, and even
failing big.
7)Understand the "Violation" You Made Against Your Standards: Feelings
like regret and guilt are very clever emotions that tell you the
decision you just made is out-of-whack with the "true you."
6)Let Regret Motivate You: Allow regret to motivate you to change
something..big or small..in your habits and commitments. The world
tells us to say, "I have no regrets." And this is not true. Admit
regrets. - John M O'Connor
5)Reframe the Situation With the "If - Then" Statement: The key is to
highlight the ways the event you regret contributed positively to your
life. Marla Pastore
4)Identify the Emotion Behind Your Regret: Regret is self-defeating and
drains emotional and physical energy. Identify the emotion behind the
regret. - Frances McIntosh
3)Apologize Then Make An Action Plan to Change: Sincerely apologize to
the person you offended. Make a plan to change...situation, action,
result.
2)Share It So Others Can Learn From It: It is common for regret to also
bring the feeling of shame. Openly share your regret in a sincere,
authentic way. If your lesson of regret can help them avoid a similar
situation, it has served a purpose and your pain can be of value. -
Leesha Reese
1)Acknowledge It and Move Forward: You messed up, things went terribly
wrong. Learn from what happened and keep it moving. The more time you
waste sulking in your misfortune is the time you could spend doing and
being amazing. - Kiki Ramsey
"Overthinking is the art of creating problems that don't exist." -
MindsetOfGreatness
"There are going to be very painful moments in your life that will
change your entire world in a matter of minutes. These moments will
change you. Let them make you stronger, smarter, and kinder. But don't
you go and become someone you're not. Cry. Scream if you have to. Then
straighten out that crown and keep moving." - Erin Van Vuren
"I don't think it's about more gun control. I grew up in the South with
guns everywhere and we never shot anyone. This [shooting] is about
people who aren't taught the value of life." - Samuel L. Jackson
"You need Power only when you want to do something harmful. Otherwise,
Love is enough to get everything done." - Charlie Chaplin
"To argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like
administering medicine to the dead." - Thomas Paine
"I can say with great certainty and absolute honesty, that I did not
know what love was until I knew what love was not." - P.T. Berkey
"Sometimes all you need is for someone to just be there, even if they
can't solve your problems. Just knowing there is someone who cares can
make all the difference." - sun.gazing.com
The best is yet to be!! MONA
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