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Mind, Body, Soul
Of
the Monkey
By Mona Lease
Greetings, Gals!! I've been listening to a lot of people say they are
depressed lately. They're anxious. A couple of people have mentioned
suicide on social media. So - I'm submitting the following for your
consideration. I found it most interesting.
The Drunk Monkey - Matthew Ferry - 4/19/2019
The Drunk Monkey in your head is holding people accountable to
agreements they never made. People annoy you, they bug you, they
agitate you, and they don't do what you expect them to do. And
suddenly, there's this fight within you. You go into survival mode. And
that survival mode is not serving you and it's not serving them. And
it's robbing you of your peace.
It's important for you to start to notice that nobody signed up for
your life program. You're not the ruler of the universe. You're not the
one who decides how people are supposed to behave. And conduct that you
think is appropriate or right is just a perspective, an opinion you
have. It's not even an opinion you have. It's an opinion you
adopted...because it was the thing to do...because everyone was doing
it.
Consider that there are no jerks in the world until you show up and
label them. And it is your label that makes them a jerk. It means you
are resisting who they are and how they are operating.
Question: From where did your rules of conduct come? Did you make them
up? Some of them are preferences. Start to realize that other people
came in a certain way. Other people were raised in different groups,
different countries, different religions, and different societies. And
everybody thinks that their way is right. You've got to spot the
unconscious mental reflex - holding people accountable for agreements
they didn't make - and let it go.
Question: What makes your upbringing more right than someone else's?
The answer is nothing. You may be committed to a functionality. You may
be committed to effectiveness...living in a way that's workable and
creates uplifting energy. And that's ok. You don't know why you're this
way. Other people don't know why they're the way they are. It's
important - for your peace - to let people off the hook.
No one cares what you actually think. And this is really important
because we really do operate like our opinion matters. And it really
doesn't. You think on social media it does. And it really doesn't. No
one actually cares what your opinion is. The people who do care what
your opinion is are the people who are already aligned with your
opinion...that's it.
Everyone was raised by different people. Your opinion is the source of
your suffering, not their behavior. So when people behave differently
than you, and you get upset, you're holding them accountable to an
agreement that doesn't exist. Your expectations are being broken and
the question you have to ask yourself is: From where did my
expectations come?
Constantly question your motivation for thinking. Thinking - for the
most part - is a survival activity. And you're not in a survival
situation. Begin to release people from agreements that they never made
so that you can be more at peace. Let people just be the way that they
are so that you can be more at peace. - Excerpts - The Drunk Monkey -
Matthew Ferry -n 4/19/2019
The best is yet to be!!
"Sometimes all you need is for someone to just be there, even if they
can't solve your problems. Just knowing there is someone who cares can
make all the difference." - sun.gazing.com MONA
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