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Vent,
Vett, Voice
By Mona Lease
Hi, all!! "Vent" is described as: "The release of a strong emotion...to
give vent to anger."
"Vett" is: "To make a/an (prior) examination of something or
someone. Or to "vett" for prior approval.
"Voice" is: To express something in words. (All from Wikipedia).
I've been listening to people speak to each other. Mostly - I've been
paying attention to the "listener." Start watching this. It's pretty
interesting.
Have you noticed that the "listener" will automatically start giving
"solutions" to the speaker's problems? Notice how the speaker's face
goes through a range of "confused expressions." It's almost like the
speaker is thinking: "But, this is "my" story."
Within counseling circles - there is the word "vent." Which
usually means to let off some "steam"...some anger...some built-up
range of emotions. Sometime this "venting" is complaining. And no
solution is desired.
Sometimes through the "venting" a solution...or more probably...a list
of solutions is composed. You then need to make a choice. Put a plan
into action and wait for the results.
"Vetting" is: The act of thoroughly examining something or someone.
This is a thorough fact-checking before making a decision as to a
course of action (or hiring someone for a job).
"Voicing" is: To express something in words...voice an opinion.
Now, what I wonder is: How many times do these speakers want to "vent"
- and do not desire an answer or list of answers?
Or - how many times do they want to "vent" their problem...or idea?
Maybe they might give a list of their desired actions . This might
actually be a "clue" or rather a "cue" for you to make a comment. You
might add a "watch out for" or "be careful of"...this or that.
"Voicing" is: This is the one I wonder about the most. Is it possible
that there are those who want to "voice" something to another human
being? They don't really want an answer or even a list of answers. They
just want to "voice" their opinion - their problem - to another human
being - who has the ability to fully comprehend the speaker's
situation. A wall...a dog...the television...do not have that ability.
I wonder about this "voicing" because: Until it's "voiced" - it's in
your brain - from the inside. You can remember a song in your head -
even know the words and the melody. But when you hear it on the radio -
it's coming into your brain from an outside source. And this is a
different process trough the brain. Essentially - the ear takes in
"stimuli" and sends it to the brain. The brain tells the ear that the
ear heard it. The brain processes the ear's intake and you have: That's
beautiful music. The fireworks hurt my ears.
So, in this "Voicing" - because you actually "hear" your thoughts as an
external source to the brain - does that make it easier to understand
your dilemma...to make a list (real or mentally) of your possible
solutions...and choose the most effective for you?
And do people "voice" their opinion or dilemma two...or however many
times...to see if their "take" on it is still the same? To maybe see if
they will stick with that decision...or if it sounds "stupid?"
Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time. Forgive yourself
for giving away your power. Forgive yourself for past behaviors.
Forgive yourself for the survival patterns and traits you picked up
while enduring trauma. Forgive yourself for being who you needed to be.
- Peace, Love, and Everything Else
It's a Journey. No one is ahead of you or behind you. You are not more
"advanced" or less enlightened. You are exactly where you need to be.
It's not a contest. It's LIFE. We are ALL teachers and we are ALL
students. - Peace, Love, and Everything Else
Remember the kiddies and our service people. Take good care of the
furry and feathered ones out there. Be safe and healthy. See ya next
time. Ever Toodles!!! MONA
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