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Mind, Body, Soul
The
Truth
By Mona Lease
Greetings, Gals!! I paused while I was writing this to look out the
window. From the east - we're getting the promised snow. And tomorrow
(Sunday) is an Arctic blast. I trust you gals prepared for this. It's
what we do. Stick to the "portion control" regarding food. When warm
weather gets here - we won't have much weight to lose.
The Art Of Letting Go - Chapter 18 - "The Truth About Why I Don't
Contact You Anymore" - Ellen Nguyen
I didn't contact you because I didn't want you to misinterpret my
intentions. I had no intention other than I thought of you. It would be
genuinely great to hear from you. But I knew you would read between the
lines, looking for a hidden meaning underneath my hello.
I don't want to throw myself at you in a moment of weakness and feel
like a pathetic mess with no self-respect later. I'm no longer thrilled
by the sign of danger. So, I'll save us the hassles.
I don't contact you or anyone else because right now, I need time for
myself. I don't know where I'll be in one or two years. Realistically -
now is not the time for me to be involved with anyone.
It's alright, though. If there's anything worthwhile I've learned -
it's about patience and self-control. I will wait and stay grounded for
the life I aspire to lead. Because I know the things I truly want are
not readily available - I will wait. It takes time. For now, I
don't mind having my phone quiet.
The Art Of Letting Go - Chapter 19 - "Here's How To Stop Loving Them" -
Ari Eastman
When you decide to stop loving them, your body will convince you this
is the wrong decision. Everything inside you burns with promises, with
ideas about the future, with a different you. The you before the
shattering. Before the ending. Before you were faced with the
strangling thought that now, you are not supposed to love them anymore.
Now you are supposed to move on from this feeling.
Sift through the memories. Do not run to the bottle or the cell
phone...ready to send messages you'll regret. Just look at the
memories. There's a power in this you can't control. Silently curse it.
Then verbally curse it.
Look at all these ghosts of happier times. Think of how no one warned
you of the left-over haunting. Saying good-bye doesn't mean everything
ends.
Feel like you should be better than this. Like you should know how to
be okay. But, you 're not. So yell. Yell at no one. Yell at everyone.
Store the memories away. If it feels right - throw away the memories.
Just let the memories be out of sight for now. Your heart is still
beating - still going. And so are you.
Watch movies that force laughter from you - really laugh. A big
belly-laugh. Remember, your heart is not broken. Broken things do not
continue to work. You are bruised, but you still work.
Call or reach out to someone who has always been there for you. Tell
them five different reasons why they matter to you and how much you
value your relationship with them. Romantic love is only one kind of
love and it is never enough to fully sustain a person.
Go for a walk and fully listen to yourself. Are you sad? Are you angry?
Do you feel utterly lost? Listen to all of it. Accept all of it. Decide
that during this walk, you will grieve however you need to grieve.
Cry. Question. Break and look them up on social media. Want to cry
more? Think of calling them? Or texting? Don't.
When you decide to stop loving them, you will do everything you can
think of to make it come true. But, maybe you aren't ready to stop.
Maybe time, distance, or some other magic ingredient will do the trick.
Perhaps your heart has enough room for some piece of love to stay
forever. An artifact of what you shared. You will figure it our.
And if after all of this, you still find yourself loving them - so
what? We could all use more love, even if it is the type you keep
tucked away some where.
"Sometimes all you need is for someone to just be there, even if they
can't solve your problems. Just knowing there is someone who cares can
make all the difference." - sun.gazing.com
The best is yet to be! MONA
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